Help Me Please
LET’S BEGIN.
First, for anyone who is at their end, right here and right now–I’m talking about suicide–and you’ve tried all the other options and I’m your last hope… please go directly to my page called Beyond The End. Do it now.
For the rest of you, thank you for visiting my website. You’ve typed in ‘help me please’, which means you’ve gone beyond searching for a specific type of help, and your circumstances have overwhelmed you into making a more general plea: you are making YOUR DEEP CALL FOR HELP.
I’m answering. I offer sincere help throughout this site, it’s pure and it’s for free. There is no advice here, nothing to buy, no ads, no exercises or tests to take, no new things for you to ‘believe’ or ‘follow’. You can keep your religious beliefs, or lack thereof, because this is not a religious site, and yet it also includes every person in every religion.
Please read the following short introductions to the three kinds of help I offer here, and then start exploring whichever seems to meet your need at the moment.
***I hope something on my site resonates with you, maybe helps your situation, offers a little peace and some options. Please read ‘The Help Me Book’. There is so much I still need to put on this site and I apologize for so much that is missing, and I’m sorry if your situation falls into those gaps and you aren’t helped. For the time being I’m closing comments, and I’m very sorry for that as well. I wish I could personally hear every one of you. I am taking a lot of time to re-organize this site globally, and adding a lot of pages, to make it easier for you to find the exact help you are looking for. Until then, please read my present site, despite its limitations. I will take this notice down once the site is updated.
1. The HELP ME Book
There are options you have not thought about. Even the wisest, most intelligent and resourceful mind cannot think of every option. A life-saving option may be right in front of you, even within you, and because you are in such a dire state you’re not able to recognize it clearly.
There are options that can help you cope with, manage, make less painful, or solve (if they can be ‘solved’) your problems. I have heard so many people say, “I’ve tried everything!” and, “Nothing works, no one can help me!” and, “I don’t know what to do!”.
Do you really think you’ve tried ‘everything’? You haven’t come close to trying everything, and I’ll prove it here. Nothing works? Everything works in some way, you just haven’t opened to ‘everything’ in the right way. You don’t know what to do? On a certain level, you know entirely what to do; you just haven’t been able to look past your pain and fear and the noise in your head, and hear yourself.
The HELP ME Book is a shot of adrenaline for you. If you think you’re ‘at the end’, you’ve ‘hit bottom’, you’ve ‘run out of realistic options’, your ‘life is over’… please read my book. It is progressive, linear, blows apart your thought that you’ve tried everything and have reached your limit, and gives you many options you hadn’t thought about. Think of this book as a ‘primer before you reach out for more specific kinds of help’.
Remember: my book, like everything on this site, is free. Nothing to buy, nothing to learn, no exercises, no religiousness, no commercial spirituality. You just read it, and it starts to move something inside you. Note that this book is not simply a few brief website articles; this is a lot of reading, something to immerse yourself in, a big book published in web page form. Let’s begin with the Introduction.
2. THE INTERVIEWS
The most common thing you hear when you’re in difficulty or in crisis is ‘Talk to someone’. But sometimes you can’t, either because of your own limitations or because there’s simply no one around you feel you can talk to, who would be safe or helpful to talk with. So I’m bringing them to you.
These are interviews I do with people who have been through things. All kinds of people, from all areas, all ages, and all kinds of life happenings. One of the biggest blind spots of anyone who is suffering, is the feeling that you are alone, that no one understands. But if you are having deep troubles, and you read an interview, or a dozen interviews, with people who are going through similar things, you no longer feel so isolated. And you can learn, be helped, by hearing about how others have coped, even survived and thrived, through circumstances similar to what you are going through. They may not be able to listen to you in person, but by the way they share their own words here you’ll know that they would hear you if you were talking to them right now.
To read more about these interviews and how I conduct them, please read ‘The Interviews‘ page. Or you can go directly to any category under ‘THE INTERVIEWS’ heading at right, and select an interview whose title resonates with your own circumstances. Note that no interview is just about one thing; a ‘change of life’ interview might talk about some great or tragic event leading to that change; a ‘sexual abuse’ interview might talk about later problems in life resulting from the abuse. I try to loosely categorize each interview, but each one includes wider events.
I will add to these interviews constantly, so please check in at a later date, if you do not see an interview that helps you at the moment.
3. ClearYourMind.com
Usually it is a wide collection of events and decisions that bring you down a road that eventually tightens and bottlenecks into your finally asking ‘help me please’. It is invariably a combination of external happenings, and your reactions and responses to them, that brings you to either success or suffering. This is not a matter of ‘fault’ or blame, of intelligence or strength; the smartest and strongest people can still end up in a place of despair and destitution.
But your mind can evolve into something better; not every difficult circumstance in your life can be thwarted or escaped, however there are mind-tools you can use to better cope with problems, and then to deal with enough parts of a problem so that the whole is reduced in severity and becomes something manageable.
These are a random series of mind tools. Mind tools are just that: thought-tools to help your mind build into a stronger entity. You don’t have to learn any new spiritual words, there are no exercises, you don’t have to learn or remember anything here. Mind tools are simple thoughts that clarify something in your head, help your thought process evolve into something more efficient, healthy, powerful, capable. You just read them, and they start to work.
You can read them at www.ClearYourMind.com. As with this site, there are no ads there, nothing to buy, and all articles and photos are by me. Enjoy.
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I hope these pages can help you. Every article on this site is written by myself, every interview is conducted by myself and the final version is approved by the person being interviewed, and the photos are all by me.
I have been in that place, of asking HELP ME PLEASE, many times in the past, for many years, and in situations I did not feel I could survive. So I think I can give you realistic and effective options.
And I hope I do that.
Thank you,
Neil
Hey, sorry if it’s late or early but I really need help. I really have no idea what to do with my life anymore I feel like a waste of space and a complete failure. I’m running out of family and have no friends left. I also just feel bad Bc at least I had a family at one point and I’m whining like a bitch when other people probably go through worse.. I’m running out of options.
Hi Kenny; first, there is no point in comparing yourself to other people who may ‘go through worse’; this is your life, you’ve reached a limitation, you’re asking for help, so just validate that completely and without comparison. Second, you’re getting to a very isolated, alone, and drained state of life; that comes from somewhere, so what has been happening, what kind of life has brought you to feeling this way? I have emailed you.
I turn 31yrs of age in the beginning of March. I had my first kid eight months ago with a woman who has four prior to my one. We are now a family of seven. I’ve been through hell and back so much in life’s journey that I have gotten a tattoo on my neck that reads “my crazy life”. At first I liked to think of it as a reminder of where I come from and what I’ve been through to get to where I was…meaning, At first she and I seemed like the best thing for each other. Now, not so much. I was twenty-six at the time we got together and i believed I couldn’t reproduce. I had a good layout job-wise and owned my car but struggled to find my own place to call home. I struggled due to poor decision making skills. Hard to find someone who will rent or sell to a felon (three time felon). I like to think that I am a man of benevolence and has a kind heart naturally, but life’s journey has tainted it with fear, anger, and hunger for attention. I was beat as a child. Not severely, but it left scars in my heart. I was raised by women in my family. Aunts, Sisters, Grandmother, and mother(recovering addict). No father(addict). At twenty-six I wanted kids. She(girlfriend) had four kids and their father turned out to be one of the worse. I feel in love with all of them instantly and decided to make us an item. She was working and at that time she was very independent. We decided to live together. I had the job and car she had the babies and house….it was amazing at first but things got really sour after a year. We got pregnant…what a surprise. Scared me half to death…prior to the pregnancy, She became salty towards a co-worker that I would help with a ride here and there. Turns out the lady had a crush on me. She(crush) had used my phone to call home one time and the next thing you know she calls my phone telling me how she was interested in me. My girl was next to me and I didn’t think much of it…I had no bad intentions with this girl so I answered to her(crush) saying how highly she thought of me…boy do I regret that ever taking place. My lady over heard it all and became mortified followed by flying objects and razor sharp profanity…I got physical😞. “I am truly sorry Sabrina, i was weak then.” From there she made the final decision for abortion. She blames me for this still til this day. Four years later…I am jobless. No motivation. We argue all the time. Car broke down. We live off of section eight…I’m afraid to trust her jugement as a parent to my child so I been home a few months making sure my babies are getting the proper attention they need. I don’t want daycare, simply don’t trust it, but we can really use the help so I can go back to work. I’m willing to struggle financially to avoid daycare. My lady has lost respect for me because of this…kids are starting to also…but now so much has been said and done she can’t stand the sight of me. I’m losing my family and there’s nothing I can do about it…she talks about leaving me. Calls cops any chance she gets because she feels vindictive about me calling shots without a job. She mentioned how she wouldn’t change a thing even if I did some how miraculously became rich, she would still feel the same. Last three years have been tough but I believe in us still and if I lose my kids…..well, life would have no meaning…I might as well become a drug addict like mom and dad and walk the streets until I can’t walk anymore…can you please remind me…because I’m so lost right now. My peripherals now read My tattoo as…”MY CRAZY WIFE”.
Hi Solo, couple dozen things in there to respond to, but I’m going to simplify it down to one major thing I’m reading from you. I have emailed you.
Please help! I feel like I’m loosing my mind!!! I know this may not sound like a serious problem but it is really effecting my life! Whenever I read a book, I start to act like the main character or one of the main characters until I read a new book. The book I am currently reading, is about a ton of sick and depressed vampires. I use to be very out going but now I lock myself in my room (in the dark) and I feel terrible. I feel sick and depressed and not wanting to do anything. Is this a mental disorder?! Please help!! 🙁 Also, I tried to stop reading the book but i couldn’t. I feel like I’m going insane. 🙁
This is a new one for me. Okay to laugh, but also to take seriously. I’ve emailed you. Thank you for responding, let’s look into this.
Compared to all these older people commenting here with actual problems, I feel like a whiny selfish baby, or maybe just some average emo teen… I feel empty, like there is no point in living. All I do is struggle in community college, especially with the stress, wait for the weekend, waste the weekend in front of the TV, and continue going to school. It’s the exact same routine, lying about getting A’s, knowing that anything less than an A is a failure in the eyes of my parents, and even after I transfer out, it’ll be the same thing, just with longer studying hours… even after all that, I don’t know what I’ll even do with my life, I don’t really have any true passion towards anything I’ve learned. On top of all that, thanks to my extreme case of social anxiety, I feel as if I am completely alone, the few friends I do have don’t understand, and I can’t even really make friends with people around my age since I’m always stuck at home or at school, surrounded by people much much older than I. Sometimes I wonder if it’d even matter if I ended my life, the earth would keep spinning, what’s one pathetic bums life worth anyway
Your parents have never seen YOU, have they? And so you’ve grown up only feeling self-worth according to how well you ‘perform’ and ‘what you do’, and it’s never been about ‘who you are’ and ‘what you want’? Not really. But you’re a young adult now… and you have the opportunity to go in search of those things for yourself, since they were not nurtured in you while you were growing up. I have emailed you.
I am back again. Things just keep on sliding out of control. I was doing so well and then WHAM! I have a dream of walking down the yellow brick road to my goal. I can’t get there though. I am in quick sand. Everyone especially my husband is so damned negative towards me. This is dragging me down to the point of no return. I have grand visions of taking what is mine and jumping off the bridge over the highway. I don’t really want to but it’s a slippery slope with barely any hope of escape. I don’t want to be trapped in my mindset anymore. Why can’t I be happy? I don’t want to be here. What I love and dream about my husband hates. No support. He just seems to be cranky and has that “old grumpy man” mindset. He told me in would never support me in my endeavors. That felt like a knife plunging into my heart. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I have never asked for very much ever in my life but this dream is what I keep on holding on to just to get me through another day. I can’t stand spending time with him sometimes. He’s bitter, complains and is not very happy. I can’t help him because he only let’s me into his world when he needs something like love and companionship which is so hard to give because of his moodiness. I am good up to a point of ignoring this negativity but I can only hold out for so long. Some days I am glad I am at work because being home can be terrible. His health is not the greatest while I am very fit and very able. I know that his medications that he’s on has something to do with his mood swings. I need someone to love me and comfort me, give me accolades for my dedication but NO! No one is home. The house is abandoned and rotting. I never know who or what I am going to wake up to. I am trying to be a soldier and be stoic and pretend that this part of my life doesn’t exist but I am tired of having to put up the good fight! I am really tired!
Hi Gina; reading between the lines, I get the sense you already know exactly what to do. You are tired, and afraid, but you know what you want. I have emailed you.
i need help.i hate everything about myself. i have suicidal thoughts.i hate everything about this world. and i am literary dying from this pain in my heart and i have absolutely no idea what i should do to make things right.
Hate, pain, suicide, dying… this is all coming from somewhere. What has been happening with your life that brought you to all this? I have emailed you, Tina.
Hello, i am in need of help i dont know what to do with myself and feel like im worth nothhing like i am. I feel lost inside wanting to cry and die inside i will cut my wrist vertically so the dctors wont stich it back
Hi Angel, what kind of life circumstances have brought you to this place of feeling so worthless and wanting to remove yourself from the world? I have emailed you.
Help me I’m gonna be going into surgery in a week and there’s a 5% chance I will live help me I’m scared
Hello Camryn, I have emailed you.
I am discouraged. Feeling like a rock in a very hard place. On one hand I am debt free but am unable to keep consistent work due to the fact my daughter needs me to watch my glorious grand daughter so she can work at the hospital. Since she does have bills and a partner who has gone AWOL the past 3 years, she needs me. I love it but feel so unproductive. I love to cook, paint, sew, dance, garden, sing, play piano, perform in theater, read, write, travel, etc., but none for profit except the painting. Which is very few and far between. A few of my friends thought I might be depressed. I laughed. My mother had severe depression and rarely got out of bed. She cried all the time about everything. This went on for years. I don’t see that I have that. I am bored, lonely, blah.
Hi Leslie, it sounds like you are doing a lot of things you enjoy… but perhaps it is time to begin looking deeper than that; is it time to start looking instead toward your deeper life purpose? You can still do all the things you enjoy, but those things can also eventually feel empty, even drain you, if they remain as just pasttimes, activities, enjoyments. Eventually, you will want to look deeper, below those things, and explore ‘authenticity’. Rather than ‘what do I enjoy’, it becomes ‘What feels right, for me?’. When you begin to answer that question, things change… and then you may even enjoy those activities even more.
I have emailed you.
Hello
Sorry to bother you, I just don’t know what to do anymore… Everyday I think if I was dead I would stop hurting those around me, being alive they suffer to see me in pain, I just cannot find it in me to be happy. I’ve lost all wishes for my life, I don’t feel like doing anything except sleeping, because that’s a way out of reality… I don’t have any interest anymore. I forgot how to laugh, how to feel something else than pain. I’m imprisoned in a spiral of failure. I see myself and really feel like I want to meticulously destroy myself. I’m happy to see you put out this website, thank you for all of those you’ll help. I’m not sure I deserve help myself.
Hi Marina, this isn’t a bubble, this has been a long time gestating in you; so, what are the life happenings and situation that brought you to this point? I have emailed you.