Help Me Please

LET’S BEGIN.

First, for anyone who is at their end, right here and right now–I’m talking about suicide–and you’ve tried all the other options and I’m your last hope… please go directly to my page called Beyond The End. Do it now.

For the rest of you, thank you for visiting my website. You’ve typed in ‘help me please’, which means you’ve gone beyond searching for a specific type of help, and your circumstances have overwhelmed you into making a more general plea: you are making YOUR DEEP CALL FOR HELP.

I’m answering. I offer sincere help throughout this site, it’s pure and it’s for free. There is no advice here, nothing to buy, no ads, no exercises or tests to take, no new things for you to ‘believe’ or ‘follow’. You can keep your religious beliefs, or lack thereof, because this is not a religious site, and yet it also includes every person in every religion.

Please read the following short introductions to the three kinds of help I offer here, and then start exploring whichever seems to meet your need at the moment.

***I hope something on my site resonates with you, maybe helps your situation, offers a little peace and some options. Please read ‘The Help Me Book’. There is so much I still need to put on this site and I apologize for so much that is missing, and I’m sorry if your situation falls into those gaps and you aren’t helped. For the time being I’m closing comments, and I’m very sorry for that as well. I wish I could personally hear every one of you. I am taking a lot of time to re-organize this site globally, and adding a lot of pages, to make it easier for you to find the exact help you are looking for. Until then, please read my present site, despite its limitations. I will take this notice down once the site is updated.

Introduction: The HELP ME Book1. The HELP ME Book
There are options you have not thought about. Even the wisest, most intelligent and resourceful mind cannot think of every option. A life-saving option may be right in front of you, even within you, and because you are in such a dire state you’re not able to recognize it clearly.

There are options that can help you cope with, manage, make less painful, or solve (if they can be ‘solved’) your problems. I have heard so many people say, “I’ve tried everything!” and, “Nothing works, no one can help me!” and, “I don’t know what to do!”.

Do you really think you’ve tried ‘everything’? You haven’t come close to trying everything, and I’ll prove it here. Nothing works? Everything works in some way, you just haven’t opened to ‘everything’ in the right way. You don’t know what to do? On a certain level, you know entirely what to do; you just haven’t been able to look past your pain and fear and the noise in your head, and hear yourself.

The HELP ME Book is a shot of adrenaline for you. If you think you’re ‘at the end’, you’ve ‘hit bottom’, you’ve ‘run out of realistic options’, your ‘life is over’… please read my book. It is progressive, linear, blows apart your thought that you’ve tried everything and have reached your limit, and gives you many options you hadn’t thought about. Think of this book as a ‘primer before you reach out for more specific kinds of help’.

Remember: my book, like everything on this site, is free. Nothing to buy, nothing to learn, no exercises, no religiousness, no commercial spirituality. You just read it, and it starts to move something inside you. Note that this book is not simply a few brief website articles; this is a lot of reading, something to immerse yourself in, a big book published in web page form. Let’s begin with the Introduction.

Interview: Separating Parents2. THE INTERVIEWS
The most common thing you hear when you’re in difficulty or in crisis is ‘Talk to someone’. But sometimes you can’t, either because of your own limitations or because there’s simply no one around you feel you can talk to, who would be safe or helpful to talk with. So I’m bringing them to you.

These are interviews I do with people who have been through things. All kinds of people, from all areas, all ages, and all kinds of life happenings. One of the biggest blind spots of anyone who is suffering, is the feeling that you are alone, that no one understands. But if you are having deep troubles, and you read an interview, or a dozen interviews, with people who are going through similar things, you no longer feel so isolated. And you can learn, be helped, by hearing about how others have coped, even survived and thrived, through circumstances similar to what you are going through. They may not be able to listen to you in person, but by the way they share their own words here you’ll know that they would hear you if you were talking to them right now.

To read more about these interviews and how I conduct them, please read ‘The Interviews‘ page. Or you can go directly to any category under ‘THE INTERVIEWS’ heading at right, and select an interview whose title resonates with your own circumstances. Note that no interview is just about one thing; a ‘change of life’ interview might talk about some great or tragic event leading to that change; a ‘sexual abuse’ interview might talk about later problems in life resulting from the abuse. I try to loosely categorize each interview, but each one includes wider events.

I will add to these interviews constantly, so please check in at a later date, if you do not see an interview that helps you at the moment.

Free Your Thinking3. ClearYourMind.com
Usually it is a wide collection of events and decisions that bring you down a road that eventually tightens and bottlenecks into your finally asking ‘help me please’. It is invariably a combination of external happenings, and your reactions and responses to them, that brings you to either success or suffering. This is not a matter of ‘fault’ or blame, of intelligence or strength; the smartest and strongest people can still end up in a place of despair and destitution.

But your mind can evolve into something better; not every difficult circumstance in your life can be thwarted or escaped, however there are mind-tools you can use to better cope with problems, and then to deal with enough parts of a problem so that the whole is reduced in severity and becomes something manageable.

These are a random series of mind tools. Mind tools are just that: thought-tools to help your mind build into a stronger entity. You don’t have to learn any new spiritual words, there are no exercises, you don’t have to learn or remember anything here. Mind tools are simple thoughts that clarify something in your head, help your thought process evolve into something more efficient, healthy, powerful, capable. You just read them, and they start to work.

You can read them at www.ClearYourMind.com. As with this site, there are no ads there, nothing to buy, and all articles and photos are by me. Enjoy.

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I hope these pages can help you. Every article on this site is written by myself, every interview is conducted by myself and the final version is approved by the person being interviewed, and the photos are all by me.

I have been in that place, of asking HELP ME PLEASE, many times in the past, for many years, and in situations I did not feel I could survive. So I think I can give you realistic and effective options.

And I hope I do that.

Thank you,
Neil

Neil


415 Comments

  • husnain says:

    Hi i am husnain from pk round about 30 years old my father pass away about 28 years ago all brother and sisters are married even thiere children r married and has been born baby but i am singel till now my english not good so try to understand me i am alone nobody care me totely default because of my relitives they fraud me my all savings snach from me because i was trying to settel in uk they dont want it
    Do u know where i live this is forth badest place in the world there is no law no humanity i was try two time suicide but faild now i want suicide again but how is possible is there any painless way
    Who will help me there is nothing to show only darkness kindly help me for God sake i am stuck badly

  • Nataliya says:

    Hi, my name is Nataliya, I am 21 years old and living with my parents in the same town I grew up in and went to college in. I have almost no friends. I had really big dreams for my adult life: love, summery window-sills at night, with wine, images of laughing with friends and dancing and train rides. That’s not how it is, and that’s not how it will be. I don’t know where to go next or what to do, but the pressure of finding the friends to make this life happen, or finding the right city, or having the right experiences to become the person I want to be, is killing me. I spend 24/7 online researching, or crying in my car, or complaining to whoever will listen about how much my life is a hopeless mess and there are too many options.

    When do people realize that their dreams of adulthood are just dreams and not how it ought to be? What should I do next? Is there a point that dreamer-children grow up and learn that real life is about finding the good inside a regular “boring” life? The pressure of finding this magical life, and the thousands of options (potential paths that might lead me to the person I’m supposed to be)…it’s just too much.

  • Amy says:

    Hi I’ve been struggling for a while now and feel that there is no hope for the future. Even if there are options I don’t know if I want them. I’m stuck in this town with the man who raped me and live in constant fear of seeing him. No one seems to understand my feelings and I can’t even understand them myself, I’ll be 18 next year and will then be able to leave but don’t know if I can last that long.

  • Hope says:

    Hello, I am 45 years old from UK. My mum past away 2 years ago and my husband just told me that he is going to divorce me for unreasonable behaviour. I feel very unhappy and dont want to live in this world any more, its very cruel. I had a son who dont have anyone else in this world just me. Please help me to go from this world without feeling guilty that I living my son alone. Thank you very much!

  • Sofía says:

    Hi, my name is Sofía. I’m going through stuff right now. My mom is really sick and only I can take care of her, which is really difficult for me since i’m only 13 years old. I tried talking to my friends, but they look at me like I’m just looking for attention and now my whole classroom looks at me like I’m an attention seeker. My grandmother is getting into alcohol again, which affects my grandfather and my mom. I’m also afraid of my mental state; my mom went through chronical depression and my dad (which I have’t seen in years) Is bipolar. I am in need of someone, I can’t do this alone. I’m always absent at school and I feel like my personality isn’t likeable at all, I just have a really raw view of life so everybody thinks I’m “weird” or “a pessimist” or simply “that girl that thinks she knows everything about life”. Please help me, and thank you.

    • Bannen says:

      Hello Sofia, how smart and self-aware you are, at only thirteen! I have emailed you.

  • Katie says:

    I don’t know what to do any more. I’ve been dealing with depression, anxiety, and ADD and it has screwed up my life so badly that I completely messed up my first year of college. Last semester was bad enough, but this semester is even worse. My GPA for this semester is a 0.5 and I feel like a f***ing failure. I’m always either constantly on the verge of tears or to the point where I feel so numb and I’ve gone beyond the point of not caring to I dont even know what. I’ve been in therapy for quite a while too. Tonight I looked up painless ways to die but I got really scared when I saw the search suggestions. I dont want to die. I just want to not exist. I don’t know what to do any more. I dont even know what I’m asking for help for. I doubt you can help me but I just need to cry out just in case someone answers.

  • sadasd says:

    Hi i don’t have a lot of problems i just feel empty, hate myself nobody likes me everybody is different from me i laugh at things that others don’t like my life is shit i don’t want to live like this i hate everyone and want to stab them Help me

    • Bannen says:

      You feel empty, hate yourself, nobody likes you, your life is shit, you hate everyone and want to stab them, but you say you ‘don’t have a lot of problems’. You have one huge problem: a life and mind that are not working, not healthy. So, let’s get started and see if we can change any of that.

      I’ve emailed you, Sadasd.

  • Saad says:

    Hi, my name is Saad. I need help. A year ago my dad passed away. Though I’ve overcome the grief, I now feel like doing nothing. When I say nothing I literally mean nothing. I wasn’t particularly close to my dad..but seeing how easy it is to lose someone and how easy it to die I feel like doing everything is pointless. I used to be doing great in my studies but now I’m lagging behind. I even had suicidal thoughts some time ago but I know now that I’m too scared to kill myself. I had great ambitions for my life but now I lost sight of it. I want to rid myself of these thoughts as now my mom is the sole provider of the family and she gets worried but I don’t know how. Please help me.

  • Laurie says:

    Hi, my name is Laurie I am a single mom of three kids that just got out of a very abusive relationship. I am selling everything I own and leaving this state. I can not escape him here. I have a small town I am trying to move to in order to remove my three beautiful girls away from the abuse as well. I have come to realize that by staying I have taught them that this is exceptable and it is not. I am coming to a cross roads with stress. I face it everyday at some points it seems truly easier to just give up on it all. Stay in this same situation and deal with the pain. Then as soon as I get my motivation back and I come back to my senses, Something else gets in my way. At this point it is almost an emotional spiral I fear I will not come back from. I am doing this all on my own as I always have and it is just getting to be to much. If nothing else thank you for letting me vent,

  • Kayti says:

    Please help me. I basically have the emotional capabilities of a teenager, the arguments of a child, and the honesty of a politician. I am a lying, immature, bratty, egocentric, wannabe-woman who always manipulates the world and people around her to get attention. Regardless the cost. These are not y words, nor the words of my family… But of my boyfriend of 5 years. He is my closest thing to family. Please help… I don’t want to be this. I never wanted to be this. Ever!!

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