Help Me Please

LET’S GET STARTED.
Thank you for visiting my website. You’ve typed in ‘help me please’, which means you’ve gone beyond searching for a specific type of help, and your circumstances have overwhelmed you into making a single deep call for help.

I will try to offer sincere help throughout this site, and for free. There will be no advice here, nothing to buy, no exercises or tests to take, no new things for you to ‘believe’ or ‘follow’; what I offer you is options, enough options to maybe help disassemble some parts of your problems, hopefully show you a spark of light.

Please read the following short introductions to the three kinds of help I offer here, and then start exploring whichever seems to meet your need most authentically.

Introduction: The Course1. THE COURSE
There are always options you have not thought about. Even the wisest, most intelligent and resourceful mind cannot think of every option. Often a life-saving option is literally right in front of you, even within you, and because you are in such a dire state you’re not able to see it clearly.

A magical fact is that there are options that can help everyone. There are actually generic options that you can apply to help cope with, make less painful, or solve (if they can be ‘solved’) your problems. I have heard so many people say “I’ve tried EVERYTHING!”, and “Nothing works, no one can help me!”, and “I don’t know what to do!”.

You think you’ve tried everything? You haven’t even come close to trying everything, and I’ll prove it in The Course. Nothing works? Everything works, you just haven’t opened to it in the right way. You don’t know what to do? You know entirely what to do, you just haven’t been able to look past your pain and fear, and listen properly.

THE COURSE is a shot of adrenaline for you. If you think you’re ‘at the end’, you’ve ‘hit bottom’, you’ve ‘run out of realistic options’, your ‘life is over’… take my course. It is progressive, linear, blows apart your thought that you’ve reached your limit, and gives you many options you hadn’t thought about. Think of it as a ‘primer before you reach out for any other kind of help’.

Remember: my course, like everything on this site, is free. Nothing to buy, nothing to learn, no exercises, no religiousness, no commercial spirituality. You just read it, and it starts to move something inside you. Note that these are not brief website articles; this is a lot of reading, something to immerse yourself in, a book published in web page form. Let’s begin with the Introduction.

Interview: Separating Parents2. THE INTERVIEWS
These are interviews I do with people who have been through things. All kinds of people, from all areas, all ages, and all kinds of life happenings. One of the biggest blind spots of anyone who is suffering, is the feeling that they are alone, that no one understands. But if you are having deep troubles, and you read an interview, or a dozen interviews, with people who are going through similar things, you no longer feel so isolated, and you can learn, be helped, by hearing about how others have coped, even survived and thrived, through circumstances similar to what you are going through.

To read more about these interviews and how I conduct them, please read ‘The Interviews‘ page. Or you can go directly to any category under ‘THE INTERVIEWS’ heading at right, and select an interview whose title resonates with your own circumstances. Note that no interview is just about one thing; a ‘change of life’ interview might talk about some great or tragic event leading to that change; a ‘sexual abuse’ interview might talk about later problems in life resulting from the abuse. I try to loosely categorize each interview, but each one includes wider events.

I will add to these interviews constantly, so please check in at a later date, if you do not see an interview that helps you at the moment.

Free Your Thinking3. THE MIND TOOLS
Usually it is a wide collection of events and decisions that bring you down a road that eventually tightens and bottlenecks into your finally asking ‘help me please’. It is invariably a combination of external happenings, and your reactions and responses to them, that brings you to either success or suffering. This is not a matter of ‘fault’ or blame, of intelligence or strength; the smartest and strongest people can still end up in a place of despair and destitution.

But your mind can evolve into something better; not every difficult circumstance in your life can be thwarted or escaped, however there are thought-tools you can use to better cope with problems, or even to deal with enough parts of a problem so that the whole is reduced in severity and becomes something manageable.

These are a random series of mind tools. Mind tools are just that: thought-tools to help your mind build into a stronger entity. You don’t have to learn any new spiritual words, there are no exercises, you don’t have to learn or remember anything here. Mind tools are simple thoughts that clarify something in your head, help your thought process evolve into something more efficient, healthy, powerful, capable. You just read them, and they start to work.

You can read more about them on ‘The Mind Tools‘ page, or go directly to the Mind Tools category and select one that resonates with you. Each is a powerful tool to help you clear your mind, and clear up your life.

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I hope these pages can help you. I won’t send you to any other websites, you can search those out on your own. Every article on this site is written by myself, every link goes to another page within this site only, every interview is conducted by myself and the final version is approved by the person being interviewed, and even the photos are all by me.

My mind is well now. But I have been in that place, of asking HELP ME PLEASE, many times in the past, for many years, and in situations where I did not think I would survive. So I think I can give you realistic and effective options.

And I hope I do that.

Thank you,
Neil

Neil

134 Comments »

  • Sue says:

    I’m in despair again……I visited your site before but never got myself motivated to going through your course. I’m so drained with having endless stress……one thing after another. Tonight, as I couldn’t get to sleep I remembered typing in Help Me and your site coming up……..I don’t know if it’ll be enough, but I’m on here at least trying to sort my mind out! Thank-you for taking the trouble to put this site up…… It gives a ray of hope.

  • Hannah says:

    Hi, the first thing Ill say is thank you for your kindness and thank you for this website. I’ve been debating whether or not I take action and try and sort out my life for a long time. I keep shutting out friends, giving up with work, I used to love the playing the piano more than anything, things like the entertainer or Nina Simone fun and beautiful piano pieces and I used to sing along, now I haven’t touched a piano in weeks, thats the thing I’ve noticed the most, ive just given up on my one true passion in life. I found this website when I felt really weak and alone and I typed in ‘help me please’ and this page came up, I found this page several months ago and that’s how long it has taken me to motivate myself to type this small paragraph and reach out to someone. I would really appreciate help, thank you.

  • CS says:

    Thank you for having this website. I have a lot of problems, but also a lot of help, in my life. Things are mostly okay, and the parts that are not – like my anxiety and depression – are things that I am seeking specific help for. But on a bad day I typed in “help me please” and your website came up. And I was so very, very happy that for people who have nobody listening to them right now, you are here and trying to help. And to everyone who posted, commented, shared their experiences or tried to help someone else, thank you. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Thanks for reminding me of that when I needed it.

  • Marco says:

    Hello, My name is Marco I am a 14 year old Gender fluid and panromantic teen. I feel so stressed, I’m a freshman in highschool and I’m mentally drained. My parents don’t help either, I feel like screaming! I’m on Anti-depressants but I still don’t have a therapist after I left the last one! Midterms are coming up soon and that means I have to study as hard as I can. My dad is always making me feel like crap along with my mother. I thought if anything they’d understand, I’m drowning in depression. My medicine seems like it works but at this point I don’t know anymore. I have to get my little sister off the bus from school EVERYDAY. I have to watch her and get yelled at if I don’t clean the house or my little sister taddles on me for snapping at her because I can’t take it anymore. They claim I’m lazy because I lay in bed all day. It’s my safe place and I’m so tired… My heart sank that one time my mom yelled at me for being so upset, saying my life wasn’t bad and she couldn’t understand why I couldn’t be happy. I only really have my older sister, she’s the only one who understands but she lives in another town and works all the time and I feel like a bother. I have self harmed and I’ve been fighting myself for months over that. I have extreme body image issues… Which is hard too I try so hard to avoid mirrors but theyre everywhere and I feel cornered! I really feel trapped and I feel like I’m running out of options I want to move out and away! I want someone to understand how I feel and to hear my cries! This medicine isn’t making me happy and no one to talk to is making it worse since I feel like I’m bothering my friends all the time. My dad thinks that I’m a disapointment basically because I complain about school while he works all day and I say I’m tired and I’m stressed. I want to cry but I can’t, I was taught by him that it’s weak and it’s dumb and you’re a baby if you cry. I can’t cry at all anymore and I feel so emotionless, I have to fake happiness for everyone and I can’t do it much longer. I care so much about everyone, more than myself why doesn’t anyone care about me as much as I care about them? I put peoples happiness infront of mine all the time. Thanks for letting me vent and reading my message, it means a lot.

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