Help Me Please

LET’S GET STARTED.
Thank you for visiting my website. You’ve typed in ‘help me please’, which means you’ve gone beyond searching for a specific type of help, and your circumstances have overwhelmed you into making a single deep call for help.

I will try to offer sincere help throughout this site, and for free. There will be no advice here, nothing to buy, no exercises or tests to take, no new things for you to ‘believe’ or ‘follow’; what I offer you is options, enough options to maybe help disassemble some parts of your problems, hopefully show you a spark of light.

Please read the following short introductions to the three kinds of help I offer here, and then start exploring whichever seems to meet your need most authentically.

Introduction: The Course1. THE COURSE
There are always options you have not thought about. Even the wisest, most intelligent and resourceful mind cannot think of every option. Often a life-saving option is literally right in front of you, even within you, and because you are in such a dire state you’re not able to see it clearly.

A magical fact is that there are options that can help everyone. There are actually generic options that you can apply to help cope with, make less painful, or solve (if they can be ‘solved’) your problems. I have heard so many people say “I’ve tried EVERYTHING!”, and “Nothing works, no one can help me!”, and “I don’t know what to do!”.

You think you’ve tried everything? You haven’t even come close to trying everything, and I’ll prove it in The Course. Nothing works? Everything works, you just haven’t opened to it in the right way. You don’t know what to do? You know entirely what to do, you just haven’t been able to look past your pain and fear, and listen properly.

THE COURSE is a shot of adrenaline for you. If you think you’re ‘at the end’, you’ve ‘hit bottom’, you’ve ‘run out of realistic options’, your ‘life is over’… take my course. It is progressive, linear, blows apart your thought that you’ve reached your limit, and gives you many options you hadn’t thought about. Think of it as a ‘primer before you reach out for any other kind of help’.

Remember: my course, like everything on this site, is free. Nothing to buy, nothing to learn, no exercises, no religiousness, no commercial spirituality. You just read it, and it starts to move something inside you. Note that these are not brief website articles; this is a lot of reading, something to immerse yourself in, a book published in web page form. Let’s begin with the Introduction.

Interview: Separating Parents2. THE INTERVIEWS
These are interviews I do with people who have been through things. All kinds of people, from all areas, all ages, and all kinds of life happenings. One of the biggest blind spots of anyone who is suffering, is the feeling that they are alone, that no one understands. But if you are having deep troubles, and you read an interview, or a dozen interviews, with people who are going through similar things, you no longer feel so isolated, and you can learn, be helped, by hearing about how others have coped, even survived and thrived, through circumstances similar to what you are going through.

To read more about these interviews and how I conduct them, please read ‘The Interviews‘ page. Or you can go directly to any category under ‘THE INTERVIEWS’ heading at right, and select an interview whose title resonates with your own circumstances. Note that no interview is just about one thing; a ‘change of life’ interview might talk about some great or tragic event leading to that change; a ‘sexual abuse’ interview might talk about later problems in life resulting from the abuse. I try to loosely categorize each interview, but each one includes wider events.

I will add to these interviews constantly, so please check in at a later date, if you do not see an interview that helps you at the moment.

Free Your Thinking3. THE MIND TOOLS
Usually it is a wide collection of events and decisions that bring you down a road that eventually tightens and bottlenecks into your finally asking ‘help me please’. It is invariably a combination of external happenings, and your reactions and responses to them, that brings you to either success or suffering. This is not a matter of ‘fault’ or blame, of intelligence or strength; the smartest and strongest people can still end up in a place of despair and destitution.

But your mind can evolve into something better; not every difficult circumstance in your life can be thwarted or escaped, however there are thought-tools you can use to better cope with problems, or even to deal with enough parts of a problem so that the whole is reduced in severity and becomes something manageable.

These are a random series of mind tools. Mind tools are just that: thought-tools to help your mind build into a stronger entity. You don’t have to learn any new spiritual words, there are no exercises, you don’t have to learn or remember anything here. Mind tools are simple thoughts that clarify something in your head, help your thought process evolve into something more efficient, healthy, powerful, capable. You just read them, and they start to work.

You can read more about them on ‘The Mind Tools‘ page, or go directly to the Mind Tools category and select one that resonates with you. Each is a powerful tool to help you clear your mind, and clear up your life.

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I hope these pages can help you. I won’t send you to any other websites, you can search those out on your own. Every article on this site is written by myself, every link goes to another page within this site only, every interview is conducted by myself and the final version is approved by the person being interviewed, and even the photos are all by me.

My mind is well now. But I have been in that place, of asking HELP ME PLEASE, many times in the past, for many years, and in situations where I did not think I would survive. So I think I can give you realistic and effective options.

And I hope I do that.

Thank you,
Neil

Neil

178 Comments »

  • Sonny says:

    Hi my name is Sonny and I’ve been having some troubles. I am in high school. I have ADHD and just found out about it a few months ago. I found that my mom knew that I had it and didn’t tell me so I’ve struggled through school for years without knowing why. But the biggest problem really is my mom. She is angry every single day and always takes out her anger on me-I always thought she hated me but then just last week she told me that it wasn’t me but it was something my dad did. She wouldn’t tell me what it is but I think he’s cheating on her. Even though she told me this, she still continues to take her anger out on my specifically. It’s really awful and because of it I have no self esteem, no confidence, and rarely any happiness because she constantly is screaming at me or telling me that I’m a terrible person. Because of this I have depression now and I’ve had a few rough days. I really want to go back to being happy like I was when I was younger :(

    • Bannen says:

      Hi Sonny, I’m sorry to hear that your parents are still very emotionally immature, and are taking out their issues on you and creating a toxic, unstable environment for you. Which then attacks your own emotional growth and your sense of your own worthiness.

      I have emailed you.

  • Ghost says:

    Hello, I’m a college student and i’ve been a constant failure in life. I can’t say that i’m alone, i do have a few friends but i have never been able to interact properly with anyone so i ended up being lonely.all along. I don’t like anything, i do not have any plans for future (while my friends tell me about theirs, some message me about their vacations, some message me about how great their lives are or that they’ve got a promotion at work). I have never been able to make my parents proud, or happy for that matter. I have an anxiety problem and i feel pretty helpless most of the times.I cannot concentrate and even i wanted to study a new course, i give up before trying because i am constantly haunted by the fact that i have been a failure and will continue being one. Although i know i am the only one who will be able to get myself out of my nightmares, i have nobody to guide me emotionally and basically, i’m a mess. I just wanted somebody to reach out and listen to me. I have found your website and i pray that i’m not too late. Thank you.

  • Y says:

    i am very scared. things are changing in my house and im scared of someone getting hurt. i didnt leave a real email because i dont know if anyone can help. i want to stay anonymous, but i feel i can bare the pain if someone out there in the world is thinking of me. im only 15. i cry myself to sleep sometimes. ive never mentioned this to an outsider. i think this is affected my health. sometimes i feel crazy.

    there is more to say, but i dont know how to say it

    please think of me

  • Garreth says:

    Where do I start, I’m 35, and farther to 4 beautiful kids (with different mums)… I’m a famiy man through and through and have custody of my daughter. This year my most recent wife ran away with a guy from the internet.. taking our son with her. She disappeared without a trace and now I can’t even fight for my son back due to costs.

    to make matters worse, I now discovered that whilst I was working, she was basically sleeping with half of the local community.

    I feel empty. I feel lost, and I feel defeated… I feel alone, and most of all I feel used. Every partner I’ve ever had has ended with them cheating. I give in! … I’ve never saught help, but I typed in “Please help me” and I found this site.

    • Bannen says:

      Hello Garreth, it’s not about them, it’s about you… about why you choose women like that, and why they feel the need to act like that. You have a lot of work to do, and it’s all work that involves looking into your own life and mind. You ready to start?

      I’ve emailed you.

  • Kathy says:

    Here it is, I have three siblings who are amazing, smart, and musical. Unlike me. My oldest brother is always calling me retarded and just being rude. My sister is really angry towards me and my younger sister is just amazing.
    I love them all but I’m not talented or good enough to be in the family.and I know this. My older siblings are loved at school and I just feel like I’m the disappointment of the family. I don’t want to talk about my father much, he is resisting a divorce and keeps stalling and I hate him and can’t be dealing with this now. Please help me sort through my issues.

  • Amber M says:

    Hello… I am having some extremely emotional issues as of this very moment. I feel completely isolated… alone… uncared for… and all around angry and upset. I am currently in senior year of high school and please let me say that it is an absolute nightmare. My parents do not assist me with any of my issues, I do not have any close friends to speak to, I have an untrustworthy boyfriend, and I feel so alone and helpless. The close friends that I have tried to make this year (as well as previous years) have all betrayed or left me for “better” people so I cannot really speak to anyone about any of my problems. I’ll start from the beginning… I have extreme anxiety/ emotional issues. I get very nervous about attempting new things, trusting anyone, etc. I am currently under an extreme amount of pressure, which I am having to deal with alone (and parents too lazy to help)… such as applying to a job, applying for college, and finishing up school work. I have an abusive father, and a mother who is too scared to do anything to appose him. No family, no friends, and barely a boyfriend. I have been with this guy since a year ago… I loved him dearly and I really felt like he loved me… we never fought much. However, we had just come out of about a 3 month-long fight. We would get snappy at each other for no reason, fight all the time, someone was always unhappy… We were both exhausted with one another and we made it abundantly clear. He even created a superiority complex. After a long time we finally pulled it together… up until the day he drank too much and cheated on me. We had rebuilt all of this trust. I felt like someone was really there for me… but not anymore… he cried, pleaded, and begged for me to take him back… I did. Now, things aren’t the same. They haven’t been for a long time… I love him so much and I can’t even bare to leave him even though it REALLY and I mean REALLY seems that I am nothing more than a sex doll even if he tells me time and time again that I am not. Rejected by family, friends, and loved ones… I feel completely useless. I want to feel happy again. I have no-one to help me, I’m running out of self-esteem, patience, and I just want it all to be over. Help me… please…

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