Help Me Please
LET’S BEGIN.
First, for anyone who is at their end, right here and right now–I’m talking about suicide–and you’ve tried all the other options and I’m your last hope… please go directly to my page called Beyond The End. Do it now.
For the rest of you, thank you for visiting my website. You’ve typed in ‘help me please’, which means you’ve gone beyond searching for a specific type of help, and your circumstances have overwhelmed you into making a more general plea: you are making YOUR DEEP CALL FOR HELP.
I’m answering. I offer sincere help throughout this site, it’s pure and it’s for free. There is no advice here, nothing to buy, no ads, no exercises or tests to take, no new things for you to ‘believe’ or ‘follow’. You can keep your religious beliefs, or lack thereof, because this is not a religious site, and yet it also includes every person in every religion.
Please read the following short introductions to the three kinds of help I offer here, and then start exploring whichever seems to meet your need at the moment.
***I hope something on my site resonates with you, maybe helps your situation, offers a little peace and some options. Please read ‘The Help Me Book’. There is so much I still need to put on this site and I apologize for so much that is missing, and I’m sorry if your situation falls into those gaps and you aren’t helped. For the time being I’m closing comments, and I’m very sorry for that as well. I wish I could personally hear every one of you. I am taking a lot of time to re-organize this site globally, and adding a lot of pages, to make it easier for you to find the exact help you are looking for. Until then, please read my present site, despite its limitations. I will take this notice down once the site is updated.
1. The HELP ME Book
There are options you have not thought about. Even the wisest, most intelligent and resourceful mind cannot think of every option. A life-saving option may be right in front of you, even within you, and because you are in such a dire state you’re not able to recognize it clearly.
There are options that can help you cope with, manage, make less painful, or solve (if they can be ‘solved’) your problems. I have heard so many people say, “I’ve tried everything!” and, “Nothing works, no one can help me!” and, “I don’t know what to do!”.
Do you really think you’ve tried ‘everything’? You haven’t come close to trying everything, and I’ll prove it here. Nothing works? Everything works in some way, you just haven’t opened to ‘everything’ in the right way. You don’t know what to do? On a certain level, you know entirely what to do; you just haven’t been able to look past your pain and fear and the noise in your head, and hear yourself.
The HELP ME Book is a shot of adrenaline for you. If you think you’re ‘at the end’, you’ve ‘hit bottom’, you’ve ‘run out of realistic options’, your ‘life is over’… please read my book. It is progressive, linear, blows apart your thought that you’ve tried everything and have reached your limit, and gives you many options you hadn’t thought about. Think of this book as a ‘primer before you reach out for more specific kinds of help’.
Remember: my book, like everything on this site, is free. Nothing to buy, nothing to learn, no exercises, no religiousness, no commercial spirituality. You just read it, and it starts to move something inside you. Note that this book is not simply a few brief website articles; this is a lot of reading, something to immerse yourself in, a big book published in web page form. Let’s begin with the Introduction.
2. THE INTERVIEWS
The most common thing you hear when you’re in difficulty or in crisis is ‘Talk to someone’. But sometimes you can’t, either because of your own limitations or because there’s simply no one around you feel you can talk to, who would be safe or helpful to talk with. So I’m bringing them to you.
These are interviews I do with people who have been through things. All kinds of people, from all areas, all ages, and all kinds of life happenings. One of the biggest blind spots of anyone who is suffering, is the feeling that you are alone, that no one understands. But if you are having deep troubles, and you read an interview, or a dozen interviews, with people who are going through similar things, you no longer feel so isolated. And you can learn, be helped, by hearing about how others have coped, even survived and thrived, through circumstances similar to what you are going through. They may not be able to listen to you in person, but by the way they share their own words here you’ll know that they would hear you if you were talking to them right now.
To read more about these interviews and how I conduct them, please read ‘The Interviews‘ page. Or you can go directly to any category under ‘THE INTERVIEWS’ heading at right, and select an interview whose title resonates with your own circumstances. Note that no interview is just about one thing; a ‘change of life’ interview might talk about some great or tragic event leading to that change; a ‘sexual abuse’ interview might talk about later problems in life resulting from the abuse. I try to loosely categorize each interview, but each one includes wider events.
I will add to these interviews constantly, so please check in at a later date, if you do not see an interview that helps you at the moment.
3. ClearYourMind.com
Usually it is a wide collection of events and decisions that bring you down a road that eventually tightens and bottlenecks into your finally asking ‘help me please’. It is invariably a combination of external happenings, and your reactions and responses to them, that brings you to either success or suffering. This is not a matter of ‘fault’ or blame, of intelligence or strength; the smartest and strongest people can still end up in a place of despair and destitution.
But your mind can evolve into something better; not every difficult circumstance in your life can be thwarted or escaped, however there are mind-tools you can use to better cope with problems, and then to deal with enough parts of a problem so that the whole is reduced in severity and becomes something manageable.
These are a random series of mind tools. Mind tools are just that: thought-tools to help your mind build into a stronger entity. You don’t have to learn any new spiritual words, there are no exercises, you don’t have to learn or remember anything here. Mind tools are simple thoughts that clarify something in your head, help your thought process evolve into something more efficient, healthy, powerful, capable. You just read them, and they start to work.
You can read them at www.ClearYourMind.com. As with this site, there are no ads there, nothing to buy, and all articles and photos are by me. Enjoy.
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I hope these pages can help you. Every article on this site is written by myself, every interview is conducted by myself and the final version is approved by the person being interviewed, and the photos are all by me.
I have been in that place, of asking HELP ME PLEASE, many times in the past, for many years, and in situations I did not feel I could survive. So I think I can give you realistic and effective options.
And I hope I do that.
Thank you,
Neil
Dear Bannen,
i am social worker, i have my family, but no success in my life, i tried many times but i failed and failed, i staying with my two children and my wife. i have open vocational course for disabled,
but no success.
hope you understand
Regards
solomon
I’ve emailed you, Solomon.
What do I do? I feel purposeless and stripped of all ambition. I’m scared.
I would like to talk to your through email. I have many problems I would like to discuss problems involving things I do not wish to post.
I’ve emailed you, T.
Hi my name is Sonny and I’ve been having some troubles. I am in high school. I have ADHD and just found out about it a few months ago. I found that my mom knew that I had it and didn’t tell me so I’ve struggled through school for years without knowing why. But the biggest problem really is my mom. She is angry every single day and always takes out her anger on me-I always thought she hated me but then just last week she told me that it wasn’t me but it was something my dad did. She wouldn’t tell me what it is but I think he’s cheating on her. Even though she told me this, she still continues to take her anger out on my specifically. It’s really awful and because of it I have no self esteem, no confidence, and rarely any happiness because she constantly is screaming at me or telling me that I’m a terrible person. Because of this I have depression now and I’ve had a few rough days. I really want to go back to being happy like I was when I was younger 🙁
Hi Sonny, I’m sorry to hear that your parents are still very emotionally immature, and are taking out their issues on you and creating a toxic, unstable environment for you. Which then attacks your own emotional growth and your sense of your own worthiness.
I have emailed you.
Hello, I’m a college student and i’ve been a constant failure in life. I can’t say that i’m alone, i do have a few friends but i have never been able to interact properly with anyone so i ended up being lonely.all along. I don’t like anything, i do not have any plans for future (while my friends tell me about theirs, some message me about their vacations, some message me about how great their lives are or that they’ve got a promotion at work). I have never been able to make my parents proud, or happy for that matter. I have an anxiety problem and i feel pretty helpless most of the times.I cannot concentrate and even i wanted to study a new course, i give up before trying because i am constantly haunted by the fact that i have been a failure and will continue being one. Although i know i am the only one who will be able to get myself out of my nightmares, i have nobody to guide me emotionally and basically, i’m a mess. I just wanted somebody to reach out and listen to me. I have found your website and i pray that i’m not too late. Thank you.
Hi Ghost, I have emailed you.
i am very scared. things are changing in my house and im scared of someone getting hurt. i didnt leave a real email because i dont know if anyone can help. i want to stay anonymous, but i feel i can bare the pain if someone out there in the world is thinking of me. im only 15. i cry myself to sleep sometimes. ive never mentioned this to an outsider. i think this is affected my health. sometimes i feel crazy.
there is more to say, but i dont know how to say it
please think of me
Hello Y, I have emailed you.
I really do need someone’s help…………………please
Where do I start, I’m 35, and farther to 4 beautiful kids (with different mums)… I’m a famiy man through and through and have custody of my daughter. This year my most recent wife ran away with a guy from the internet.. taking our son with her. She disappeared without a trace and now I can’t even fight for my son back due to costs.
to make matters worse, I now discovered that whilst I was working, she was basically sleeping with half of the local community.
I feel empty. I feel lost, and I feel defeated… I feel alone, and most of all I feel used. Every partner I’ve ever had has ended with them cheating. I give in! … I’ve never saught help, but I typed in “Please help me” and I found this site.
Hello Garreth, it’s not about them, it’s about you… about why you choose women like that, and why they feel the need to act like that. You have a lot of work to do, and it’s all work that involves looking into your own life and mind. You ready to start?
I’ve emailed you.
Here it is, I have three siblings who are amazing, smart, and musical. Unlike me. My oldest brother is always calling me retarded and just being rude. My sister is really angry towards me and my younger sister is just amazing.
I love them all but I’m not talented or good enough to be in the family.and I know this. My older siblings are loved at school and I just feel like I’m the disappointment of the family. I don’t want to talk about my father much, he is resisting a divorce and keeps stalling and I hate him and can’t be dealing with this now. Please help me sort through my issues.
I’ve emailed you, Kathy.
Hello… I am having some extremely emotional issues as of this very moment. I feel completely isolated… alone… uncared for… and all around angry and upset. I am currently in senior year of high school and please let me say that it is an absolute nightmare. My parents do not assist me with any of my issues, I do not have any close friends to speak to, I have an untrustworthy boyfriend, and I feel so alone and helpless. The close friends that I have tried to make this year (as well as previous years) have all betrayed or left me for “better” people so I cannot really speak to anyone about any of my problems. I’ll start from the beginning… I have extreme anxiety/ emotional issues. I get very nervous about attempting new things, trusting anyone, etc. I am currently under an extreme amount of pressure, which I am having to deal with alone (and parents too lazy to help)… such as applying to a job, applying for college, and finishing up school work. I have an abusive father, and a mother who is too scared to do anything to appose him. No family, no friends, and barely a boyfriend. I have been with this guy since a year ago… I loved him dearly and I really felt like he loved me… we never fought much. However, we had just come out of about a 3 month-long fight. We would get snappy at each other for no reason, fight all the time, someone was always unhappy… We were both exhausted with one another and we made it abundantly clear. He even created a superiority complex. After a long time we finally pulled it together… up until the day he drank too much and cheated on me. We had rebuilt all of this trust. I felt like someone was really there for me… but not anymore… he cried, pleaded, and begged for me to take him back… I did. Now, things aren’t the same. They haven’t been for a long time… I love him so much and I can’t even bare to leave him even though it REALLY and I mean REALLY seems that I am nothing more than a sex doll even if he tells me time and time again that I am not. Rejected by family, friends, and loved ones… I feel completely useless. I want to feel happy again. I have no-one to help me, I’m running out of self-esteem, patience, and I just want it all to be over. Help me… please…
I’ve emailed you, Amber. And thank you for sharing in your follow-up emails.